It's problem page time again on DREAMCATCHER, and reader Linda has a problem for Skye Tanberry to solve... will you agree with her answer?
Linda says:
I've never been confident in myself or my abilities, and it affects my schoolwork and the hobbies I have outside of school. Recently, though, it's worse. Instead of me telling myself I can't do something, it feels like others are saying it. In school, I am being told my work is not up to standard and that I don't participate in class. I feel I'm a disappointment at home too, and I'm so sick of being told I'm lazy, irresponsible, or a slacker. I always mess things up. Please help!
Skye says:
Confidence is a key issue for all of us - once you begin to doubt yourself, the fear of not being good enough can spiral out of control and even affect the way others see us. Likewise, confidence can help us be the best we can be. Whatever is going on, you need the truth... ask your teachers how you can improve your grades and what you need to do to change things. They will be impressed by your determination and may offer extra classes or support to get you back on an even keel... and you may find out things aren't as bad as you feared. At home, you need to talk to your parents and let them know how low you are feeling. They may have no idea you feel this way, and can perhaps try more to build up your self esteem. If this isn't going to happen, find help yourself - Cathy's non fiction book LETTERS TO CATHY has lots of advice on boosting confidence and learning to believe in yourself. Work on this and you'll find you can turn your whole life around... isn't that worth your best effort?
Cathy says:
Good advice as always from Skye, but is there anything YOU would add? COMMENT BELOW to have your say!
Linda says:
I've never been confident in myself or my abilities, and it affects my schoolwork and the hobbies I have outside of school. Recently, though, it's worse. Instead of me telling myself I can't do something, it feels like others are saying it. In school, I am being told my work is not up to standard and that I don't participate in class. I feel I'm a disappointment at home too, and I'm so sick of being told I'm lazy, irresponsible, or a slacker. I always mess things up. Please help!
Confidence is a key issue for all of us - once you begin to doubt yourself, the fear of not being good enough can spiral out of control and even affect the way others see us. Likewise, confidence can help us be the best we can be. Whatever is going on, you need the truth... ask your teachers how you can improve your grades and what you need to do to change things. They will be impressed by your determination and may offer extra classes or support to get you back on an even keel... and you may find out things aren't as bad as you feared. At home, you need to talk to your parents and let them know how low you are feeling. They may have no idea you feel this way, and can perhaps try more to build up your self esteem. If this isn't going to happen, find help yourself - Cathy's non fiction book LETTERS TO CATHY has lots of advice on boosting confidence and learning to believe in yourself. Work on this and you'll find you can turn your whole life around... isn't that worth your best effort?
Cathy says:
Good advice as always from Skye, but is there anything YOU would add? COMMENT BELOW to have your say!
You are good enough, so start believing it! Start by writing down about what is good about you-focus on the positives, not the negatives. Talk to someone you know and get help-whether professional or not. Don't keep your feelings bottled up in your personal life-be honest and share your feelings. If you can, ask your parents if they can arrange a meeting with your teachers to explain that you work hard, Remember not to overdo it-that'll stress you out. Good luck!
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