Another in our regular series, reader Emma shares her tips on how to deal with divorce…
Emma says:
Divorce is not an easy thing to deal with. Our parents are priceless to us; it was them that fed us, cared for us and most importantly, unconditionally loved us. So if they decide to divorce or separate, it is by no means easy. However, with these tips I fully believe that together we can deal with divorce…
Understanding: Although it isn't easy, it's important to understand why your parents have made this choice. Sometimes, no matter how hard two people try, like irregular puzzle pieces they just cannot seem to make a fit. It doesn't mean that they love you any less, or each other of that matter; just that the kind of love they now share is different to before. A kind that may be better for all concerned in the long run.
Sharing the load: At a time like this, it is highly important to find someone to confide in, whether it's a counsellor, a close friend or a teacher. The important thing is to have someone to share the load with. You'd be surprised how having someone to talk to can help take a load off, emotionally as well as mentally.
Alone time: When dealing with such events in our lives, taking time out for ourselves can be one of the best things we can do for ourselves. Whether it's going for a walk, listening to your favourite tune or taking your pet for a walk, it's up to you. The important thing is that it's something that relaxes you.
Honesty: Don't be afraid to share with your parents how you are feeling. If you express your emotions and views you may find your parents will return the favour, and they will certainly be able to answer any worrying questions you may have. Discussion may even strengthen your relationship as a family… after all, as the old saying goes, honesty is the best policy.
Until we deal again…
Emma x
Artwork by the wonderful Lucy - thank you for the awesome pic!
Cathy says:
Do YOU have any tips for surviving a family split? COMMENT BELOW to share them, or to add to Emma's advice.
Emma says:
Understanding: Although it isn't easy, it's important to understand why your parents have made this choice. Sometimes, no matter how hard two people try, like irregular puzzle pieces they just cannot seem to make a fit. It doesn't mean that they love you any less, or each other of that matter; just that the kind of love they now share is different to before. A kind that may be better for all concerned in the long run.
Sharing the load: At a time like this, it is highly important to find someone to confide in, whether it's a counsellor, a close friend or a teacher. The important thing is to have someone to share the load with. You'd be surprised how having someone to talk to can help take a load off, emotionally as well as mentally.
Alone time: When dealing with such events in our lives, taking time out for ourselves can be one of the best things we can do for ourselves. Whether it's going for a walk, listening to your favourite tune or taking your pet for a walk, it's up to you. The important thing is that it's something that relaxes you.
Honesty: Don't be afraid to share with your parents how you are feeling. If you express your emotions and views you may find your parents will return the favour, and they will certainly be able to answer any worrying questions you may have. Discussion may even strengthen your relationship as a family… after all, as the old saying goes, honesty is the best policy.
Until we deal again…
Emma x
Artwork by the wonderful Lucy - thank you for the awesome pic!
Cathy says:
Do YOU have any tips for surviving a family split? COMMENT BELOW to share them, or to add to Emma's advice.
I agree with this because of my experience. It can lead to worse, so if it does, follow those tips and DO NOT let the pressure or hurt put you down. If it does lead to worse talk to someone, do things you love and stay positive or hang with friends or pets. It is hard of course and hurtful to experiance but its harder if you let everything, the hurt, your feelings take you away.
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